“So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” - Philippians 2:1-4 ESV

“Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to do so?” - Amos 3:3 NIV

In the health and healing of relationships, one simple thing often gets overlooked – agreement. To be clear, I am not speaking of agreement of facts, details, or decisions; but instead, agreement of the pursuit of health. Often, in my observation, when relationships dissolve, at least one party chooses not to pursue health and reconciliation. One may choose to do the work to heal a relationship, but if the other party is not in agreement, the relationship doomed to crumble. This should not be the case with Christ followers. Our relationships should not be doomed to crumble.

Instead, we should set a high bar for the standard by which healthy relationships are measured. We have been charged with being minsters of reconciliation. We have been charged to be of full accord and mind in our pursuit of Christ together. In Christ, we have so much more that we can agree about than we can disagree about. As Christians, let us make the deliberate and conscious decision to agree to walk towards healing in our shared pursuit of Christ and ministry to our community.